Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Goal Setting 101

We all have heard about goal setting.  The martial arts
belt system is based around the SMART goal principles.  
Take a larger goal and break it into smaller bite size
pieces that offer a reward system for accomplishing
milestones.  The first step into really goal setting is to...

Know what you Want - Know exactly what you want.
Be precise.  If you are unclear on a small portion,
you maybe surprised by what comes your way.
Like a sail boat on the seas without a rudder, you will
drift around life with no clear direction.

Take Action - It’s not what you know but what you do
with what you know.  Great ideas with out action,
is dreaming.  However, sometimes the action to take
is visualizing the end result.  Work Smarter not harder.

Have Daily Habits - Inch by Inch life is a cinch,
yard by yard its hard. Consistent daily steps towards
the worthwhile goal is the easiest way to get there.

Be Willing to do what is Necessary - Sometimes
we know what we have to do, but we don’t do it.  We
make excuses why it can not be done that way, or why
we can’t do it that way.

With the Attitude of Gratitude- This is one of those
areas where we can get stuck.  Negative thinking and
doubt can come easily into our mind if we are not careful.
We can think that our goals will never happen, if we
don’t have the grateful attitude towards ALL things that
come our way.  Even the struggles and challenges.
They come to make us stronger and appreciate the goal
that much more.

Enjoy the Journey - You have heard the saying Life is
not a race but a journey.  This is one universal truth.
We can only get out what we put in, so put everything
into living each day to the fullest!  Live Full, Die Empty!
Leave nothing to chance, and give everything to every
relationship you have.  What will your legacy be?

Mr. Rowe

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Back to School (We Hope)

Hard to believe that it is already August, and in just three and a half short weeks the kids will be going back to school.  For the first time my daughter said "I am Bored" yesterday, followed by a suggestion of helping her brother weed the front by me and Boredom left her mind.

      Most parents are excited for the routine, but will miss the uncertainty that comes from the ability to go and do things with their kids whenever they want.  But the reality is kids need a routine, most kids will thrive when things are structured.  Why?  according to Dr. Luara Markham it is because kids are afraid of uncertainty.  They are cautious of new places and situation.even foods.  (Maybe just my kids)  

      But the reality is that through routine kids, and adults, gain confidence in themselves. they learn about what they can do and in small increments can be exposed to new things.  That is where martial arts fits in.  While most class structure is routine (mediation, warm-up, sport related activity, cool down/stretching)  it is the middle section of sport related activity where they can be challenged.  Our SKILLZ Program does just that!  It offers a safe environment for your kids and yourself to be encouraged and inspired to do more than they thought?

      Dr Markham goes on to state "Children, like the rest of us, handle change best if it is expected and occurs in the context of a familiar routine.   A predictable routine allows children to feel safe, and to develop a sense of mastery in handling their lives."  So why do so many parents stop routines during the summer vacation?  Well if your like my house WE, as the parents want a break from all of the rushing around.  While I agree parents do need a break, Raising Family Network states why routine is good for parents:

  • They free up time for you to think about other things while you work.
  • Regular and consistent routines can help you feel like you’re doing a good job as a parent.
  • When things are hectic, routines can help you feel more organised, which lowers stress.
  • A routine will help you complete your daily tasks efficiently.
  • As children get better at following a routine by themselves, you can give fewer instructions and nag less.
  • Routines free you from having to constantly resolve disputes and make decisions. If Sunday night is pizza night, no-one needs to argue about what’s for dinner.
So Lets get back to routine!  Start with getting your kids involved in the fall activities now!  Even if it is only for a couple of weeks prior to the return to school.  It will get them focused on what will be required as the begin the journey in education again.  And really won't it be better to practice before school starts rather than wait for 2 weeks into classes?  
One way that we help kids get back into routine is by offering a Kids Leadership Summit!  This is a 3 hour program that will walk kids through the steps of Goal Setting, Conflict Resolution, and Internet Safety!  Friday August 22nd 12-3 pm at Quest Martial Arts.  email to register.  The fee for the course is a donation to the Kelowna Food Bank!


Chris Rowe