A friend of mine shared this from Facebook, and it struck home, so I had to share. This is a young lady who is very motivated and dedicated to her craft. She was a member of the Gold Medal winning Canadian Women’s Hockey team this year in Sochi Russia. She is laser focused and motivated to be her best here are the tips if they work for her they can work for us. The emphasis is mine.
Take it ONE DAY at a time - Inch by inch life is a cinch, yard by yard it’s hard. Each day is a present to be enjoyed and lingered in. Don't be in a rush to have it end. Be in a rush to focus on the gift before you.
Surround yourself with POSITIVITY - You are what you continually do! Positive people, positive books, videos, things that will help you grow and water your spirit.
CREATE a Vision Board - Our mind works better with pictures than words! Go through your favorite websites and books cutting out images of things you wish to do, have or create!
Make S.M.A.R.T. Goals - Specific Measurable Achievable Realistic and Time Orientated.
REWARD Yourself - Every step forward is a step closer! Breaking the Larger goal in to smaller more manageable bites is the best way to make your goals become your reality. But just like reaching the goal, make sure you reward yourself that you might not normally do.
BELIEVE in Yourself - or rely on a friends belief in you until yours kicks in!
ACKNOWLEDGE Your positive attributes - You were born for greatness! You have gifts and talents that yours to share with others.
RECOGNIZE your progress - towards a worth while goal! To quote Anthony Robins "Every Day I am getting stronger and stronger, better and better, or smarter and smarter!"
VISUALIZE accomplishing your goals - See it as if it has happened, then make it happen! I remember attending a conference with Les Brown, and Anthony Robins and Andy Nulman. Andy Nulman used this skill and talked about how he visualized the result he wanted then reverse goal set to sell his company for millions of dollars!
BE KIND to yourself - RESPECT Yourself and others! We are often our own worst critic, sometimes we have to remember to coach ourselves as we would coach others. You would never come right out and tell someone you cared about that they are "So Stupid!" Yet don't we say that to ourselves sometimes? Okay I guess just me.
DON’T COMPARE yourself to others - Do YOUR best...your absolute best every day, and the results will come. You are not in competition with others in life, you are here to be the best YOU can be...never look to someone else to see what they have, look inside yourself to see what you need!
Respectfully,
Mr. Chris Rowe
Tuesday, July 29, 2014
Wednesday, June 25, 2014
Quest 9 Affirmations
We seem to have lots of things we say to get ourselves ready for action. We have talked about some before Who am I? ... I am a Champion!
The reason we do this is because it becomes who we are, we fake it until we make it. We convince our body that we are capable of anything by saying it over and over. Aristotle said “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” The more we say these types of things, the more we believe in them, the more our faith and belief in ourselves grows.
Quest 9 Affirmations
1) Do it Now, Do it Right, Do it All. We have said in the past that Procrastination is the Assassination of Motivation, Whatever you HAVE to do, do it whether you like it or not. However, also think about the fact that your goals and dreams were given to you to share with others, if you don't share them they are lost forever.
2) Problems are Opportunities in disguise, often disguised in work clothes. Very rarely do things “Just Happen” or are people just “Lucky”. Their good fortune is usually the result of planting many seeds, and being ready when the opportunity presents itself.
3) You are what you think you are! Information plus what you choose to focus on becomes your personal reality! (I + F = PR) The information we take in plus our own focus (positive or negative) will determine our personal reality. If your life outside is not what you want, look at your life inside and begin to make changes there.
4) Set NO limitations for yourself. You can have, be, or create anything you set your mind on. What would you ask for if there were no limits and anything was possible? Now make that happen! We need your dreams!
5) You can only be walked on if you lay down…Your dreams and goals and vision are important. You are important and what you have to share with others is valued. Don't listen to the critics that will say you can't, it has never been done before! There was a Bishop in a small town in Ohio that said if God wanted man to fly he would have given him wings! His sons did not listen to the critic, the Wright Brothers flew!
6) You were born rich! You are not here on earth, in one of the most beautiful cities, greatest provinces and spectacular countries in the world to be mediocre … you are here to be great. You are abundantly wealthy in so many areas of life. Live your life as you were meant to. Share your wealth of knowledge, compassion, money, love, and time with all you come in contact with!
7) Settle for nothing less than what you want. As previously mentioned you are here for greatness. You are given ideas, goals and vision of a future that you want. There is nothing wrong with wanting it. Keep working towards your goals. It will not be easy, but worth it.
8) Your body is the vehicle for your soul, treat it with respect. If you had the most expensive car in the world wouldn't you take care of it daily? Wash it, put only the best fuel in it, and take it in for regular maintenance? Yet you are in possession of a one of a kind vehicle whose value is unmeasurable, and we don't always treat it with the same mentality. Watch what you put into your body physically with food, but also mentally with music, books, and media.
9) You are responsible for your happiness. You are the only one who can make you happy or sad. If it is to be it is up to me! Wake up in the morning and live as if this was your last day on this great planet. Tell the people around you how much they mean to you. Enjoy moments with friends or the quiet. Be Happy. Why are you happy…Because you CHOOSE to be!
Use these 9 affirmations in statements every morning for 30 days and see the impact it will have on your life, and the life of those around you. Some will think you have lost your mind, but the reality is you will have found it and are on the path to mastering it!
Respectfully,
Mr. Chris Rowe
The reason we do this is because it becomes who we are, we fake it until we make it. We convince our body that we are capable of anything by saying it over and over. Aristotle said “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” The more we say these types of things, the more we believe in them, the more our faith and belief in ourselves grows.
Quest 9 Affirmations
1) Do it Now, Do it Right, Do it All. We have said in the past that Procrastination is the Assassination of Motivation, Whatever you HAVE to do, do it whether you like it or not. However, also think about the fact that your goals and dreams were given to you to share with others, if you don't share them they are lost forever.
3) You are what you think you are! Information plus what you choose to focus on becomes your personal reality! (I + F = PR) The information we take in plus our own focus (positive or negative) will determine our personal reality. If your life outside is not what you want, look at your life inside and begin to make changes there.
4) Set NO limitations for yourself. You can have, be, or create anything you set your mind on. What would you ask for if there were no limits and anything was possible? Now make that happen! We need your dreams!
5) You can only be walked on if you lay down…Your dreams and goals and vision are important. You are important and what you have to share with others is valued. Don't listen to the critics that will say you can't, it has never been done before! There was a Bishop in a small town in Ohio that said if God wanted man to fly he would have given him wings! His sons did not listen to the critic, the Wright Brothers flew!
6) You were born rich! You are not here on earth, in one of the most beautiful cities, greatest provinces and spectacular countries in the world to be mediocre … you are here to be great. You are abundantly wealthy in so many areas of life. Live your life as you were meant to. Share your wealth of knowledge, compassion, money, love, and time with all you come in contact with!
7) Settle for nothing less than what you want. As previously mentioned you are here for greatness. You are given ideas, goals and vision of a future that you want. There is nothing wrong with wanting it. Keep working towards your goals. It will not be easy, but worth it.
8) Your body is the vehicle for your soul, treat it with respect. If you had the most expensive car in the world wouldn't you take care of it daily? Wash it, put only the best fuel in it, and take it in for regular maintenance? Yet you are in possession of a one of a kind vehicle whose value is unmeasurable, and we don't always treat it with the same mentality. Watch what you put into your body physically with food, but also mentally with music, books, and media.
9) You are responsible for your happiness. You are the only one who can make you happy or sad. If it is to be it is up to me! Wake up in the morning and live as if this was your last day on this great planet. Tell the people around you how much they mean to you. Enjoy moments with friends or the quiet. Be Happy. Why are you happy…Because you CHOOSE to be!
Use these 9 affirmations in statements every morning for 30 days and see the impact it will have on your life, and the life of those around you. Some will think you have lost your mind, but the reality is you will have found it and are on the path to mastering it!
Respectfully,
Mr. Chris Rowe
Tuesday, June 10, 2014
Facing the FEAR of Martial Arts
Many professionals who think about doing self-defense
classes or taking martial arts classes don’t for many reasons. First and foremost there is the thought that
they don’t have time. Our focus is often
on our kids and their activities.
Business owners don’t think anything will happen to them, or that they
could get out of the situation without having to come to physical defense. Or maybe they are afraid to look foolish…do
you know anyone that fits any of those descriptions? Anyone you may know intimately? Be honest and get out of BED (Blame, Excuse, Denial) and begin to debunk the excuses you are making for yourself.
There are 168 hours in the week I ask that
you take 2 hours/week to get involved in something that, from my personal experience,
will change your life if you let it.
With 25-40 hours/week for sleep you still have 128 hours, or more, to
get out and learn martial arts. How much
TV do you watch? What if you got up just
30 minutes earlier each morning that would give you 3.5 hours more each week, you
have lots of time.
Taking martial arts or self-defense
classes will give you confidence to deal with certain situations. If your profession is running a small business
or a realtor whose job it is to meet people you have never met before in
sometimes an unfamiliar place, you need to be prepared for many different
situations. The chances are small that
anything will happen, but like most types of insurance you are glad you have it
if you need it.
The defensive situations do not even have
to involve physical defense from an unknown assailant. The skills you learn to de-escalate a
situation may help with dealing with confrontation in the work place. It may allow you to understand how you deal
with external stress and the over whelming adrenal response that happens. When you have to deal with the overbearing
personality in the office or you are trying to communicate clearly and
effectively while maintaining every ones dignity, the skills taught in most
martial arts schools will help you in everyday life.
For some it may have been years since you
felt unsure of what you were doing in your day. So beginning something that you have never
done or becoming the student again can be energizing and scary at the same time. I know first had that as a 4th
Degree black belt it was an amazing feeling to put on a white belt as I started
to learn another style of martial art.
Step into the unknown by choice, and continue your learning, not just of
an art but also of yourself. What you
are truly capable of.
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FEAR is False Expectations Appearing Real,
and it is a story that our mind makes up to prevent us from reach our true
potential. Start writing a new chapter
where you become a Black belt! If you
have obtained that rank in a martial art then get back in and continue the
journey.
Respectfully,
Mr. Chris Rowe
www.kelownamartialarts.com
250-869-0111
Saturday, May 31, 2014
The Higher Faculties of your mind!
Higher Faculties of the Mind
The five senses sight, hearing, touch, smell and taste are our antennas or receptors for getting information that we perceive from our world. There are also other senses that masters’ use called higher faculties of the mind. The word “Education” comes from the Latin word “Educo” which means to educe, develop or to draw from within. An educated person is a person who has so developed the faculties of their mind that they can acquire anything they want or its equivalent without violating the rights of others they are as follow;
Perception- This gives us our point of view. It is conditioned by the way you have been taught in life and which you believe to be the truth. The incredible thing about perception is we can alter it by choice and our whole world can change for the better.
Reason- it is the power to use our conscious mind to choose what we believe. We become what we think about.
Will - willpower is the ability to hold on to one positive idea without becoming distracted by a negative thought or distraction. We use this to stay mentally focused on our goal regardless of our current circumstance or situation.
Memory- Have you ever heard or said “I have a bad memory?” I think most of us would admit having said or heard that at least once in our lives. The truth is that there are no bad memories just untrained ones. Work your memory like any other muscle. You use it or lose it.
Imagination- As little children we used this all the time until one day some well meaning adult or significant teacher in our lives told us to stop daydreaming. It seems that the older we get the more we filter incoming words and ignore the 90% or more of unspoken communication. When you put creative thought to work in your mind and become an imaginary you can create your dream life in your mind. Hold on to that thought with willpower and manifest what you want into your material life.
Intuition - Is the connection to your God, your higher self whatever you choose to call it. It is your gut feeling, and lets you know when things are good or bad. It is your connection to other peoples vibrational state. It is what tells you when someone walking to the room whether they are in a good or bad mood.
By using these higher faculties you can impact your results and achieve whatever you set your mind to. What we think about we bring about, we are what we repeatedly do. Use every once of your mental and physical ability to be the person you were designed to be.
Respectfully,
Mr. Chris Rowe
Friday, May 30, 2014
Self Defense - 101
Self defense is a hot topic, often people will ask for one go to move. The reality is, there is not, it depends on the situation and surroundings. Is it self-defense from an unknown attacker or a fight that breaks out with someone you know? When I teach self defense class we talk about three boundaries;
1) Gut Feeling - this is your own instinct that tells you when things are bad, or have that potential. It is at this stage that you need to remove yourself from the area. Don't let your ego trick your mind in thinking that nothing bad will happen, or at least not to you. Even if you have trained in martial arts or done a few classes, there are so many variables that can cause a situation to go bad.
2) Verbal Boundary - It is at this stage if you are really aware, and you listen to someone you may be able to de-escalate the situation and control it. If during a heated argument the other person says "Shut up or I am going to punch you in the face!" What stands out from that comment? For most people it "I am going to punch you in the face!" and rightly so. But that is just part of it. That person has just told you what they want...for you to stop talking. You have said something, intentionally or not that they can not process in any other way than to threaten you.
3) Physical boundary - This is the go stage, where you have tried to calm the other person down verbally and it does not work. You have to be prepared to physically defend yourself. This is where you need to get off the couch and practice! There is NO class that you can do once and feel really safe. You need to practice the skills over and over so that they become your habit. The skills should involve gross motor skills, because under stress your fine motor skills will be less effective. So we focus on elbows, knees, palm heal strikes and hammer fists.
If you have thought about getting involved and learning to defend yourself and your family or want information on our next class give us a call 250-869-0111!
1) Gut Feeling - this is your own instinct that tells you when things are bad, or have that potential. It is at this stage that you need to remove yourself from the area. Don't let your ego trick your mind in thinking that nothing bad will happen, or at least not to you. Even if you have trained in martial arts or done a few classes, there are so many variables that can cause a situation to go bad.
2) Verbal Boundary - It is at this stage if you are really aware, and you listen to someone you may be able to de-escalate the situation and control it. If during a heated argument the other person says "Shut up or I am going to punch you in the face!" What stands out from that comment? For most people it "I am going to punch you in the face!" and rightly so. But that is just part of it. That person has just told you what they want...for you to stop talking. You have said something, intentionally or not that they can not process in any other way than to threaten you.
During this De-escalation phase - there are opportunities for you to be able to walk away without having to fight or defend yourself physically.
A) Get your ego out of the way, and accept that you said something that offended them and apologize.
B) Avoid threatening them. Saying something like "Try it and I will kick your teeth in!" Is not going to allow you to walk away.
C) Don't deny that they will carry their threat through "No you won't, you're chicken!" Another way to start a fight.
D) Allow them to leave with dignity You have said everything you need to, to calm them down and instead of walking away, you say something like "I thought so!" Yes, you had better be ready to defend yourself.
3) Physical boundary - This is the go stage, where you have tried to calm the other person down verbally and it does not work. You have to be prepared to physically defend yourself. This is where you need to get off the couch and practice! There is NO class that you can do once and feel really safe. You need to practice the skills over and over so that they become your habit. The skills should involve gross motor skills, because under stress your fine motor skills will be less effective. So we focus on elbows, knees, palm heal strikes and hammer fists.
If you have thought about getting involved and learning to defend yourself and your family or want information on our next class give us a call 250-869-0111!
Respectfully,
Chris Rowe
Whats the S.C.O.R.E.?
S.C.O.R.E System
This is a system of being in the ZONE in all arenas of your life originally learned from Mr. Jim Fannin. Whether it is being a spouse, brother, sister, mother, father, employee or any other arena you have. It is important to have vision for each arena and to work towards that vision you need to know the S.C.O.R.E.
Self-Discipline - Self-discipline means to take a thought from start to finish. Discipline is not a punishment it is a choice we make. Discipline is the bridge from goals to living your dreams and vision. It takes discipline to be an advancing person. Advancing people do more than what is expected of them whether at school, at your job, or at home. It also means giving more in value back to the person than they give you in dollar value.
Concentration - is the ability to focus our mental and physical energy on the task or tasks necessary to reach our goals and vision of our dream life. You must know what you want (meaning your goal and vision) first, before you can optimize your mental energy and the faculties of your mind
Optimism - it is expressed belief, expectancy, and confidence in ones self to achieve your goal(s). For optimism to work you must first have faith…which is believing before seeing results. Optimism helps you to push your mental and physical terror barriers (things our mind says we can not do) to open new opportunities that would other wise not happen if we did not try something new or uncomfortable.
Relaxation - means “Purposeful Calm”, being mentally and physically comfortable in the moment. Poor performance in the field (sports, school, business) happens when we do not relax on purpose; negative thoughts enter our minds and tighten us up. Your best actions take place when you naturally relax. Take a deep breath on purpose and be mindful while you do it.
Enjoyment - is satisfaction, passion, pleasure, excitement, enthusiasm in/or reaching for our goals or visions having an authentic, passionate, happy personality in everything you do.
Respectfully, Mr. Chris Rowe
Self-Discipline - Self-discipline means to take a thought from start to finish. Discipline is not a punishment it is a choice we make. Discipline is the bridge from goals to living your dreams and vision. It takes discipline to be an advancing person. Advancing people do more than what is expected of them whether at school, at your job, or at home. It also means giving more in value back to the person than they give you in dollar value.
Concentration - is the ability to focus our mental and physical energy on the task or tasks necessary to reach our goals and vision of our dream life. You must know what you want (meaning your goal and vision) first, before you can optimize your mental energy and the faculties of your mind
- Perception
- Reason
- Will Power
- Memory
- Intuition
- Imagination
Optimism - it is expressed belief, expectancy, and confidence in ones self to achieve your goal(s). For optimism to work you must first have faith…which is believing before seeing results. Optimism helps you to push your mental and physical terror barriers (things our mind says we can not do) to open new opportunities that would other wise not happen if we did not try something new or uncomfortable.
Relaxation - means “Purposeful Calm”, being mentally and physically comfortable in the moment. Poor performance in the field (sports, school, business) happens when we do not relax on purpose; negative thoughts enter our minds and tighten us up. Your best actions take place when you naturally relax. Take a deep breath on purpose and be mindful while you do it.
Enjoyment - is satisfaction, passion, pleasure, excitement, enthusiasm in/or reaching for our goals or visions having an authentic, passionate, happy personality in everything you do.
Respectfully, Mr. Chris Rowe
Monday, March 31, 2014
Motivational Questisms
Motivational Questisms
As we work towards our goals, we often are hit with stumbling blocks whether it be our training levelled off and we no longer see the same gains, or we have run into some energy vampires and let them get to us. Here are my top 4 Questisms, things that I have said to help myself overcome some sort of challenge in my life. When challenged with a situation that threatens to hold you back, say one of these that apply, and feel the energy surge! Whenever possible say them out loud and with authority as if you are demanding that it happen. When you say things out loud you activate more than one sense that helps to energize your body, mind and spirit!
Coach Flower – “Who am I? I am a Champion!” Regardless of your station whether you compete in tournaments or in life you are a Champion! You are not here on Earth to be mediocre, or to “just get by” You are here to flourish and be abundant! Instead of asking “What do you want?” ask “What do I expect!”
Master Zaleski – “Do it Now Do it Right Do it All!” Procrastination is the assassination of Motivation. We all have things we do not want to do…Use this long standing Questism to keep you motivated to be disciplined doing what you HAVE to so you can do what you WANT to!
Les Brown – “If you can look up you can get up!” You will fall down during training for your black belt, and at other times as well. It is not the fact that you fell down, but what you did when it happened! If you can look up you can get up…it won't always be easy but it will always be possible!
Grand Master C.K. Choi – “A warrior is always ready!” For whatever maybe asked…Think about the belt testing, blue belts should know all the things from previous belts so that if asked you can demonstrate them for a junior. If asked to perform your pattern you should be able to do so to the best of your ability!
Not only do these quotes apply to our martial arts training, but to any area of life. You do not need to be a Champion Tae Kwon-Do player to be a Champion in other areas, and by “Warrior” I am referring to the fact that we are all still in a battle against negative thinking every day. Sometimes from within! Stay Positive and use these tools everyday!
Respectfully,
Mr. Chris Rowe
As we work towards our goals, we often are hit with stumbling blocks whether it be our training levelled off and we no longer see the same gains, or we have run into some energy vampires and let them get to us. Here are my top 4 Questisms, things that I have said to help myself overcome some sort of challenge in my life. When challenged with a situation that threatens to hold you back, say one of these that apply, and feel the energy surge! Whenever possible say them out loud and with authority as if you are demanding that it happen. When you say things out loud you activate more than one sense that helps to energize your body, mind and spirit!
Coach Flower – “Who am I? I am a Champion!” Regardless of your station whether you compete in tournaments or in life you are a Champion! You are not here on Earth to be mediocre, or to “just get by” You are here to flourish and be abundant! Instead of asking “What do you want?” ask “What do I expect!”
Master Zaleski – “Do it Now Do it Right Do it All!” Procrastination is the assassination of Motivation. We all have things we do not want to do…Use this long standing Questism to keep you motivated to be disciplined doing what you HAVE to so you can do what you WANT to!
Les Brown – “If you can look up you can get up!” You will fall down during training for your black belt, and at other times as well. It is not the fact that you fell down, but what you did when it happened! If you can look up you can get up…it won't always be easy but it will always be possible!
Grand Master C.K. Choi – “A warrior is always ready!” For whatever maybe asked…Think about the belt testing, blue belts should know all the things from previous belts so that if asked you can demonstrate them for a junior. If asked to perform your pattern you should be able to do so to the best of your ability!
Not only do these quotes apply to our martial arts training, but to any area of life. You do not need to be a Champion Tae Kwon-Do player to be a Champion in other areas, and by “Warrior” I am referring to the fact that we are all still in a battle against negative thinking every day. Sometimes from within! Stay Positive and use these tools everyday!
Respectfully,
Mr. Chris Rowe
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